Random Thougts on a Monday Afternoon

So I am thinking of something that happened when I was with someone in the past (not the recent past....think last 6 months). Miguel (I'll use that name as I don't know any Miguels) had come over for dinner and to watch a little TV. Well one bottle of wine leads to us getting a little closer, and suddenly we are kissing. Now we are keeping this fairly innocent (although a bit of wanderings have begun) when he stops, and turns out the light. Now my place is fairly big, and when the shades are drawn, turning out a light makes the place pitch black. It made me wonder a bit. "Is he turning out the light because he is turned off by how I look?" "Does he have to pretend I am someone else?" "Is he so self conscious of how he looks that he doesn't want me to see him?"

So it gets me thinking of my own preferences. I like being intimate in the light. Now that doesn't mean having spotlights beaming down on us like we are on a stage. Romantic lighting is nice. I want to see my partner's face, watch the look on his face as I give him pleasure. Tease him and pleasure him so much that when I'm through he's apt to give a standing ovation...provided he has his breath back ;-) I know...too much information.

So the question is...how common is it for people to want to be intimate in near total darkness?