Wednesday, January 07, 2004

The Philosophy of Vodka

So I spent yesterday evening with the person I had the fillet steaks with on Saturday. He made a massive trip to the grocery store and asked if I wanted to come along. Shopping with a cute single guy??? How domestic! Count me in (I actually enjoy this as you can learn a lot about a person from just watching what they buy at the grocery store).

After shopping, we went back to our prospective places and got changed to go out for a few drinks. Stopped off at Union Station, had 3 Cape Cods and finished off at Twist with a Cosmopolitan.

The conversation turned to a bit of philosophy. The question that was raised was What exactly is love? Now I am going to preface this by saying that this is something that I had never thought a lot about before, so I did seem to be a bit wishy-washy on the whole issue. The following were my friend's thoughts:

I believe when you love someone, you put them first above yourself. In return, they put you first above all else as well. Since you are both putting yourselves first, you can coexist happy.

My thoughts: It seems like a lot of codependency that relies on both people ALWAYS communicating what it is that they want from the other person and what they want in life. I think that can be a bit unrealistic as 1)We don't always know what we want from life, and 2) We don't always communicate it.

Do I have a definition of what love is? Well I'm not really sure either. These are the tales of a comic looking for a soulmate or soul...but if I have to define it, I think it has to do with sharing your life with someone, and that means all of your life...good and bad.

My friend disagreed on that issue, as he "already shares his life with all of his friends and family". So we never did come to a consensus as to what love was.

The dictionary says:
love. loved, lovÂ·ing, loves v. tr.